But, we did finally choose a name!
Picking out a boy name was surprisingly difficult for both Stuart and me. Stuart has a (what I think is strange) aversion to duplicating any names within the family, and if you know anything about my family, that is a very difficult feat. I am the 15th of 16 children in my family and Stuart is the oldest of 11 children and let’s just put it this way, this baby boy will be the 106th grandchild on my side (not counting the other 30 great-grandchildren)! We can think of 100 girls names we love but boys names for some reason have been tricky. The one we could agree on, and both liked, was Gideon. That would be Charlotte’s name if she was a boy, but it was quickly snatched up by my brother and sister-in-law shortly before Charlotte was born. So that leaves us back at square one.
We have been toying with the idea of calling him Malcom, which is Stuart’s middle name, but neither of us were totally in love with the name for this baby. So, we decided to explore other names through an app we found called Baby Name. If you know what Tinder is, it’s kind of like that, only for baby names. We’d each individually look at the app and either swipe left on names we didn’t like or right on a name that we did like, and since our accounts were connected, the app would tell us what names we agreed on.
It did reveal a few names that both of us were open to which is nice for future reference but in the end, we decided to revisit the name Malcom and both felt good about it. As for the middle name, we’ve talked for years about naming one of our children after a friend of ours named Aaron. He was largely responsible for Stuart not giving up on me after we started dating.
Aaron is a friend Stuart has known since high school and was Stuart’s roommate in college. Stuart left a note on my car to ask me out for the first time. I had a very sporadic schedule and he could never catch me in person. I thought Stuart was very handsome but didn’t really feel any chemistry with him right off the bat. We went on a few dates, and even though he checked off all the boxes for what I was looking for, I hadn’t felt that initial chemistry as I had with others. So I dragged my feet a little which he interpreted as disinterest. Aaron and Stuart had a chat one night and Stuart had declared that he was no longer going to pursue the relationship. Aaron convinced him to give it one more try.
In the meantime, I had a chat with my nieces (who were my age) and who were something like roommates to me at the time. While talking to them, I talked myself into showing Stuart a little more interest because I could not think of any legitimate reasons why I shouldn’t date him. So, when Stuart did ask me out one more time at Aaron’s request, I flipped the switch and decided to be flirtatious.
Stuart was a little caught off guard by this and didn’t know what to think, but it obviously gave him enough of something to go off of so that we continued to date and eventually fell in love and had 4 kids and moved to Omaha and bought a house and joined the military and Stuart became a doctor and I became a self-proclaimed home designer and DIYer and homeschooler. Sheesh, I really had no idea what was weighing in the balance of that decision.
So, since the beginning of our childbearing days, the name Aaron has always been on the list and now we have decided it is finally time to use it. I can’t wait for Malcom Aaron Montenegro to finally make his debut! He’s quite late since he was supposed to be here at the latest by last Monday 3/20/23, and he is making it quite miserable for me to do simple things like sleep and sit down and stand up and the like. And I’m hoping his lateness doesn’t become a lifelong habit of his, but I guess I can forgive him as long as he comes out cute.
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I wish we could meet in real life one day and find out home many more things we have in common! I feel like I could have written that dating story with a few name changes for myself! good luck with baby Malcom!
I really like the name choice! They flow nicely together and have a great story on where his name’s came from. Wish you the best as you deliver your little boy!
Congratulations to you and your family. Malcolm will be one spoiled little guy with all those cute sisters. We had three boys before we could finally use the name Katelyn Anne. Katelyn after a cousin I spent only one summer with but fell in love with her name. And Anne after Anne of Green Gables ????????????????
Congratulations ❤️ Nice name combination and story to go with it. Aaron would be honored.
Loved reading your love story???? and what a special name to be giving this little guy and we all know he’s gonna be a cutie. Good luck Momma, you got this!
My husband and I named our son Everett. I never thought I’d have a so. with that name but he is named after my husband’s friend. “Big” Everett encouraged my now husband (100% introvert engineer) to call me after our first date. He called me two weeks later and the rest is history. Big Everett was diagnosed with a brain tumor when I was pregnant with twin boys. We couldn’t think of a better way to honor him than to name one of our boys after him. Many people don’t like the name but this man has played a pivotal role in our journey. And now our son holds his story.
Thank you for sharing your experience. Wonderful family! Excited to see him!
Congratulations on picking a name… our youngest son is Aaron. Good luck on the arrival of the little guy.
Peace enlightened. I always like to envision a child’s name by it’s meaning. Malcolm Aaron is a beautiful boys name. Can’t wait to hear the girls nicknames for baby brother.
Adorable name!!! I pray for a healthy delivery and arrival!!! Miss your posts!!!
I love his name! i have an Aaron (our 3rd son) so I absolutely love his middle name too!
Best wishes for a safe and swift delivery. March 26 sounds like a great birthday to me!
Love the name!!!
Best wishes tomorrow for baby arrival. You have pick a strong name for your boy. Take care and prayers for easy delivery ????
Love the name and the story!!!
Love the name! And his initials will be Mam! So cute! Good luck with the birth. ♥️
Beautiful story about “give it one more try”. Good stories maybe need this one more try. I am on this point now… nice to hear your story 🙂
Hope your boy comes tomorrow healthy and surrounded of love.
Praying for you and your little family. You got this!!!!
Little Malcom will be adorable.
Aww love the name! I, like Stuart, have an aversion to first names being duplicated in families. Tell him he’s not alone ????
Praying for a smooth delivery. Love his name. You are both such great parents. Can’t wait to see the little nugget.
I agree with Stuart on not repeating names, but boy is that hard!!! I come from a big family also, Not as big as yours, and not by my choice we have some repeated names ???? I love that there is a story to his name! Good luck, hope he comes soon and healthy.
My son is Reed Malcolm and LOVE the name! They grow into whatever their namebis and he’ll be perfect!!
Great Name!! Wonderful storyline for your little guy! Congratulations ❤️
Wishing you the best Crystel, praying for a swift and safe delivery of sweet Malcom, and selfishly speaking, I’m looking forward to your return to the Gram!!!
Love the name!!!????
Love your life story and Malcom is a great name! He will be so spoiled by all those girls and the humongous family! Prayers sent your way for his arrival. Hopefully very soon!
So exciting!
Love the name for baby MAM❣️
Hope your wait isn’t too much longer but he certainly will be worth the weight????????❣️
Ps what is Squishs’’ real name?
God Bless You All!!
Thanks for keeping us in the loop. Feels weird to not see your posts everyday. I hope the wait is ending soon. I was 3 weeks late with my first and it was torture. Everytime I saw someone and they said ” you haven’t had that baby yet?!” I just wanted to cry. Not to mention that you can’t get comfortable enough to sleep. I hope all goes well for you and your family. ????
I love iterative names! Malcolm Montenegro is great. My last name also starts with an “M” and I often thought two of my siblings got the better deal with their first names also beginning with an “M”.
What an awesome story! I wish Malcon Aaron and safe (and speedy!) arrival Earthside and may he be blessed with all that is good.
I love the name! It’s very regal. Sounds like you should be a king or something. Lol Now if he will just get here so you can give him his name that would be great.
Great great name. Malcolm. Sounds strong.
Aaron is such a Hebrew name. And we know several people with that name.
Wishing you an easy and safe delivery. I’m sure he will come out cute as your girls are incredible !!! Good luck or as the Jewish people say – Mazel tov !!
Love his name. Hopefully he makes his debut soon!
He isn’t late…he’ll be right on God’s time:)
I love names with a story behind them. Makes it even more special! Malcolm Aaron is a great name and I can’t wait to meet him! I can’t imagine how miserable you must be! He’s nice and toasty in there, Mama! ❤???? I’m wishing you all the best! Praying for a smooth and healthy delivery! ????❤
My son’s name is Aaron so I love IT!!!!!
Given your proclivity for nicknames, you could call him Mac. I think Mac Montenegro has a nice ring to it. Hoping he makes his appearance soon. (My first son was considered 3 weeks late but when he was born he only weighed 7#3oz so I kind of think he was born on-time).
Prayers to you and your family as y’all prepare for Malcom Aaron to arrive. Sending love from Mississippi.
I’m hoping by the time I type this you are cuddling baby Malcom! Love the name and that you’re honoring your friend. Hope you both are happy and healthy and the girls are having fun with their new brother! Blessings to your family.
I love your choice! It’s a special name he will surely be proud of! Can’t wait for the announcement of his arrival! I feel for you during this period of pregnancy! ????????
Love a name with a story. Our first born’s middle name is the place we met!
Hood little Malcolm arrives soon. Hugs to you, Stuart and the girls. ????❤️
Love the name!
My oldest and only boy was a week late, my 3 girls were all a little early. My son is now 22 and will be graduating from the U of U next semester. From the day he was born he has always been so easy going, by far my easiest kiddo. Lots of luck to you and baby Malcolm!
Aloha Crystal, I love seeing you and your beautiful family and all the DIY projects that you do that turns out beautiful. Love the boy name, especially the reasons behind it. Can’t wait to meet baby Malcolm. Mahalo nui loa. Sharon
It’s certainly a big name for a little baby but it is timeless. Maybe he was waiting for his entry into the world because he needed his name. Or… he needed more time with family members before leaving the spirit world. I believe with all my heart that they receive guidance in advance of their arrival. Congratulations.
Perfect name for your sweet boy! I love names with a background/meaning! Can’t wait to meet baby Malcolm!! Best wishes to all of you!! ❤️
That’s a great name and I love your dating and life story. So sweet. ❤️. I hope you get to meet your sweet baby boy soon ????
I love this! So happy you guys kept dating and are creating such a wonderful life together!
Love this story, but baby boy come on… we all want to meet you. ❤️❤️
I LOVE the name! And I love the story behind it! Cant wait for his arrival earth side!
Beautiful name you both decided ❤️ may he soon decide to make his appearance and you know he’s going to be the cutest bundle of joy ???? blessings in abundance for a favorable delivery ✨️
Lovely name. Can’t wait for him to arrive so we can see tons of pictures!
Love his name. Nice and strong with so much meaning. Can’t wait to meet Malcom????…hoping he makes his way into this world soon! Wishing you and your family many blessings. ♥️????♥️
I love the name. It has a very nice flow to it & a beautiful story. I also love your love/life ( up to this point) story. Can’t wait for your Malcolm to arrive. God bless you all❤️
Such a great strong name! I hope he makes his way into the world soon…I know how uncomfortable you must be. Wishing you and your many blessings. Can’t wait to meet Malcom Aaron ????
Malcolm Aaron is a sweet name with a wonderful story to tell! I’m praying that baby boy arrives soon and all is well!
I love when names have special meaning! As I am sure you know boys are a whole different ballgame 🙂 I will pray for a safe delivery!
Love that his name has a story. Prayers for a safe delivery when he decides to come. God bless you and your family.
God has always known that Malcolm Aaron would bless your family. Perhaps Malcolm knows you made his date “wait” until you were ready and now he’s decided to wait a little himself! No matter when he arrives, he is a miracle of God and will be loved by so many! Blessings to you sweet Crystel! ????
I LOVE the name Malcolm and I’m so excited you guys came around to using it!
Aaron Malcom! Like it!!
Praying for a easy and safe labor and delivery!
Congratulations are picking a name. Know he will be loved on by all of you.
What A great story! Eagerly anticipating Malcom’s arrival!
I love the story behind his name! It’s very special. I can’t wait until he makes his appearance!
Love it! Malcolm Aaron is a great name that can be for a baby and grow with him. Now he needs to hurry up and show us his cute little chubby cheeks!! ????
Love his name and how you come up with it. I am with you on using the same name that already is in use within the family. When I got married to a Greek man, they have this tradition to use the names of the baby’s fathers parent names. I was not on board with that however I did agree that if I were to have a boy I would made him after my f-i-l since he passed before I met my husband since I always loved the name Peter. However my first born was a daughter and it was expected of me to name her Catherine and I do not like the name Catherine, because it was a reminder of a nun that was my teacher in Catholic school. That was very mean so I named my daughter Katerina, which is a version of Catherine in Czech ( my nationality )and Greek. Well, that did not go over well with my husband and my mother-in-law. I also thought it would be quite unfair. If I only had two children and both had my in-laws names in my family was left out then I went on to have a son which I did name Peter and did not realize that my husbands first cousins all had a Peter since it is a very popular Greek name. Every time we went to an event and somebody called out Peter that was at least 20 so I always called him Petr which is the check version of Peter. And now I tell my son that he should name his children whatever he wants his children to be named. Unfortunately, that will not apply to my daughter since she will not have babies due to her severe disabilities..
I love the name! Hoping baby boy gets here soon! I know all too well the overdue baby! I was induced with my son and he was 9lb 7oz! Can’t imagine if I had gone any longer! Haha
Have a great delivery! Can’t wait to see him!
All in Gods time! Come on little guy we are all waiting ????
Crystal…I enjoyed reading this so much. His name is perfect! Praying for him to arrive soon, healthy and safely. And a speedy recovery for you. Love to all! XO
Yay! I love his sweet name! Now come on out, Malcom! Praying for a smooth delivery and a healthy mom and baby!! We miss you on IG! @lb.cox
Omg that is the cutest life story. You guys look great together and those beautiful babies of yours. God bless you & Family. May God cont… to watch over your family.
I love the name! All of my boys have been born after their due date, so I understand the feeling of waiting.
Haha, first off, you might want to edit it to 3/20/23 :). Baby brain is a real thing :). And good luck with everything!!
Second, I have always LOVED both Gideon and Malcolm, so… love your choices. You should look up the book “Malcolm” by George Macdonald (C.S. Lewis regarded him as his master) – that is where I fell in love with the name personally :).
What a great story.???? All the very best to you for the safe, timely (and hopefully very soon) arrival of little Malcom Aaron! We can’t wait for a picture and to hear all about him meeting his big sisters!❤❤❤Jas
I love that his name has a story! All 3 of mine have a story to go with their name and they love hearing it told to them. So special. Hope baby Malcom comes soon and in the meantime you’re able to get some rest.
Beautiful name with so much meaning. Best wishes to all of you as you await Malcom’s arrival!